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Top Signs You Need Couple’s Therapy to Save Your Relationship
Consider some couples therapy if you’ve been in a relationship for a while and notice that your relationship is starting to slip away. Although this might seem frightening initially, it can be a handy tool if used correctly.
It’s not just for couples who are having serious problems, though. It can also be helpful if you want to deal with minor issues before they turn into big ones. Many signs indicate you need couple’s therapy to save your relationship. Here are some top signs that say you need therapy as a couple.
Constant Fighting
At the beginning of a relationship, fighting is expected. It’s a part of the process. There will be disagreements over what you want to do on Friday night and who should take out the trash. However, if you’re constantly arguing with your significant other over things like this, it might be better for you to continue living together.
If you frequently argue about petty things, it’s time for couples counseling. The key here is that even though these arguments may seem trivial, they can lead down a path where deeper issues are revealed and addressed.
If all conversations end up in heated arguments by default, it may indicate something more going on than two people who disagree on what movie they want to watch tonight or whether or not they need another bagel at breakfast tomorrow morning.
It can easily lead to separation, which you would not like. For example, in Florida, the average divorce rate over the last decade was 4.8 per 1,000 total marriages, which is higher than usual. If you live in the state, you must find a therapist in Florida specializing in couples therapy.
You’re in a Stalemate
According to a WithOurs survey, 89% of individuals prioritize relationship health over mental and physical health. If you have been trying to fix your relationship and nothing is working, it might be time for couples therapy.
Couples in a stalemate may feel like they have tried everything and are at their wit’s end. They may need to learn how else to change the situation and feel stuck with one another.
It’s very common for couples who have been together for a long time to get into rough patches, but if these rough patches continue without any resolution, then it could be an indication that something more serious is going on in your relationship that needs attention from a professional therapist.
You’ve Stopped Listening
Listening is a skill that You can learn. You probably already know how to listen, but you may need to realize how much of an impact listening has on your relationship. You might think that you’re listening, but are you? According to a Forbes report, effective listeners are great at building relationships and generating trust.
If your partner talks about something personal and you start talking about yourself in response, it isn’t healthy communication. Your partner will feel unheard and alone when they speak with you because they will feel like their thoughts aren’t valued or considered when expressing themselves to you.
Your Relationship is Too Dependent or Co-dependent
Co-dependency is a term used to describe a relationship where both people depend on each other for things like financial support, emotional support, and physical help. As you can imagine, this can be very unhealthy for both partners. Both partners should be independent individuals who can care for themselves emotionally and financially.
If one partner is taking care of the other’s finances or even helping them get jobs when they don’t need it, then that is a sign that there may be co-dependency in your relationship. It would help if you worked on being independent so that neither person feels like they have to rely on the other all the time.
You Have Zero Interest in Intimacy
According to a Psychology Today report of 2022, 25% to 50% of heterosexual marriages are sexless. Sex is a big part of any relationship; if you do not have it, you need to find out why. If your partner isn’t interested in sex, it might be time for the two of you to see a therapist together.
Research shows that couples with strong sexual relationships are more likely to stay together than those who don’t have active sex lives. It’s also essential for couples with children. Couples with trouble conceiving often turn to therapy to better communicate their concerns and fears about starting a family.
If your relationship has become less physical over time, other issues may also be at play, like depression or anxiety, that could benefit from professional help. Therapy can help ease these feelings while strengthening communication between partners.
Couples Therapy Can Help a Lot, but It Takes Both of You to Make It Work
Couple therapy is not a one-sided effort. You can’t expect your partner to change, but you can still be open and honest with each other. For couples therapy to work, both partners must be willing to work together as a team toward saving their relationship.
The therapist may offer insights that your partner may not be able or willing to see on their own and vice versa. But it’s up to both of you how much weight those insights are given and whether or not they’re implemented in real-life situations.
If one person refuses to participate in couples counseling, it’s unlikely that any progress will be made. That’s because the two minds aren’t working together towards a common goal: saving the relationship.
If you or your partner have any of these symptoms, it’s time for a therapist. There are many reasons one or both partners may not be ready for therapy, including denial or lack of awareness about the problems in their relationship. However, if you experience any of the above conditions frequently and consistently over time with slight improvement, then it’s likely time to seek help from a professional.
In wrapping up this article on whether couples therapy is right for you, remember that sometimes we need help because we don’t know how to solve our problems ourselves. Couples counseling is an excellent tool that can help resolve conflicts between two people who want to stay together but don’t know how to do so without outside intervention.
(Photo by Honor the Earth)
On Tuesday September 19, 2023, the Indigenous peoples took to the frontlines of the climate crisis on Turtle Island and took over Times Square painting a giant mural with the message, “No Green Colonialism; Land Back NOW!”
This mural came the day before the UN Climate Ambition Summit, where world leaders are expected to come together and make decisions around the climate crisis.
The Indigenous communities are organizing to push back on the Biden Administration’s push toward solutions to the climate crisis that threaten the lives of Indigenous people across Turtle Island, which they call “Green Colonialism.” “For too long, Native lands and communities have borne the brunt of harm from mining and other extractive industries. As the federal government moves to support clean energy development, this cannot come at the expense of clean water or Indigenous rights. This familiar assault on Native lands and communities is another wave of colonialism, and we will not stand by and allow our lands to be sacrificed,” Krystal Two Bulls, executive director of the national Indigenous organization Honor the Earth said in a press release.
The mining projects violate treaty rights and threaten clean water and land in places such as Thacker Pass, Oak Flat , and the Talon-Tamarak mine near the Mississippi headwaters.
We should all be fighting this fight!
It is hard to believe that summer is officially wrapping up. But as days get shorter there is still plenty of time to toast the season in style with these favorite white wines.
Kenwood Vineyards Six Ridges Chardonnay 2019
This refreshing chardonnay crisp apple and crunchy peach flavors is electrifying and oh, so yummy! It brings out the feeling of velvet caressing you. This is simmply all of the best the Russian River Valley of Sonoma County has to offer.
Brancott Estate Sauvignon Blanc
Divinely balanced wine with zesty aromas and highlights of pink grapefruit, melon and gooseberry. It refreshing and perfectly sweet. Every sip will have you singing praises to the wonderful summer you just had.
I was taken to City Winery by Eli Marcus for the Beatles Brunch with Strawberry Fields. 
This show plays every Sunday with an unlimited brunch buffet that includes coffee, tea and juice, starting at noon. A bottomless brunch cocktail package is also available and children get in free. Here tourists mingle with New Yorkers, eating scrambled eggs, sausage, bacon, dried out French toast, spicy potatoes with onions and peppers, perfectly done chicken, salad and fresh fruit. What is so nice, is that everyone seems happy to to be here, to see and hear the Fab Four.
Eli Marcus, Suzanna Bowling
The show starts off without fan fare. The lights dim and four men enter, not quite looking like the originals. Tony Garofalo (John Lennon), Billy J. Ray (Paul McCartney), Ira Siegel (George Harrison), and Michael Bellusci (Ringo Starr) and their costumes and wigs have seen better days. Then the music starts. You can watch one of our video’s here.
From the early hits like “I Wanna Hold Your Hand,” “She Loves You,” “Ticket To Ride” “Eight Days A Week” and more the first act is nostalgia at it’s best. It was adorable to watch the audience, especially the young ones “Twist and Shout.”
After a break in came the Sergeant Pepper era, clothing and all. From that we got “Nowhere Man,” “My Guitar Gently Weeps,” “When I’m 64,” “Penny Lane” and songs that dig into your soul. They are done well and the Beatles live again. You can see our video here.
Then the later songs like “I Am The Walrus” and “Don’t Let Me Down” end a show that is almost two hour long of music, that is classic. I have to admit I wanted to hear “Blackbird” and “Norwegian Wood,” but what you get is a well rounded assortment of those songs that shaped several era’s.
Billy J. Ray, Ira Siegel
Ira Siegel stands out with his guitar playing that is out of this world. I really loved all the songs he sang as well.
Michael Bellusci
Michael Bellusci, gives Ringo a run for his money on the drums.
Tony Garofalo
Tony Garofalo is the founder, creator and producer playing rhythm and lead guitar and singing lead vocals along with Alan LeBoeuf from the original Beatlemania playing bass guitar. Ray looks the most like the Beatle he is playing.
Alan LeBoeuf, Ira Siegel
Alan LeBoeuf, Ira Siegel
Alan LeBoeuf
Strawberry Fields has been covering The Beatles for over three decades. They used to have a residency at B.B. Kings, but these days their home base is City Winery and it is definitely a great way to spend a Sunday. All four are consummate musicians and obviously have a love for what they do and that rubs off on their audience.
For a souvenir up a City Winery Strawberry Fields Rose Wine and have it signed by the cast. With its is its strawberry pink color, you get a combination of kiwi, watermelon and the taste of strawberry that lingers.
City Winery is right next to Little Island, Chelsea Market, The Highline, the Meatpacking district, Chelsea, and West Village. Everything is nearby to make a perfect outing for the whole day and this is one brunch where you definitely get your money’s worth. Click HERE for tickets
Tickets are $65.45
Thank-you again to Eli Marcus and the staff of Dave and Buster’s, at 234 West 42nd Street.
Eli Marcus
Eli was sending the concierge’s to the show The Shark Is Broken.
The producers of The Shark Must Be Broken, Eli Marcus and the general manager of Dave and Buster’s
There were lots of new friends to be made such as Carol Mennie, Caroline Rosado from the Hilton, Dinnella Collado from the Washington Square Hotel, Benjamin Maddy from Dave and Buster’s and Michaela Paratore of Benjamin Steakhouse Prime
Michaela Paratore
This destination for sports enthusiasts, foodies, and arcade offers space, fun and some fabulous happy hour deals.
All across the multiple screens were football, basketball, and hockey games from across the sporting world. At the sports bar an impressive selection of drinks, including craft beers, signature cocktails await. I sampled some their tasty bites and was impressed.
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Pretzel Dogs
To sooth your inner child air hockey and arcade games are waiting to be played.
Margarita and I playing for Make A Wish
If you are looking for entertainment they have a legendary Trivia Night with fantastic prizes.
Double Pepperoni Flatbread
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This is actually a great place to throw your holiday parties.
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I am so glad the Mayor of Times Square invited me to his event.
Margarita Parlionas and Eli Marcus
-Kent Walz, attorney & journalist
Diane Dimond’s book on the scourge of abusive adult guardianships is coming out very soon. It only took her 8 long years of investigation and countless interviews with affected people to get to the bottom of this extremely flawed part of the justice system.
People who have lived through this nightmare knows first hand what this “protective” part of the court system can do to rip apart families. But because it’s such a secretive system few Americans realize that they – or someone they love – could be guardianized without warning. It’s not just Britney Spears – up to 2 million people currently live under guardianship/court control.
All it takes is for someone (a vindictive relative, a greedy business partner, a former lover, even a landlord) to file a guardianship petition with the court saying someone is not competent to care for themselves. The judge usually agrees – often without ever seeing the targeted person – and the guardianship is established. Judges routinely appoint a total stranger as guardian to make all life decisions for the new “ward of the court.” All their civil rights are stripped away and, suddenly, the person has no say in their own life –they can’t even hire their own lawyer to fight it. There are many more horrific aspects to this “justice” system and Ms. Dimond spells it all out in the book.
We’re Here to Help – When Guardianship Goes Wrong not only reveals the predatory nature of the system (which controls a collective $50 billion in ward’s money every year!) but also tells what to look out for. It provides a guide for readers to protect themselves and those they love.
Diane Dimond is the author of four books including the upcoming, “We’re Here to Help: When Guardianship Goes Wrong,“ published by Brandeis University Press, released Sept. 19, 2023
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